Mark Groves

And so, you know, at the core of regulation is really, like, trust, is that do I trust that when I need to have my own back, that I have access to the resources, to my voice, to be able to say this doesn't work or this does work. And if we don't have access to our no, then our yes is really filled with small print.

And so, you know, at the core of regulation is really, like, trust, is that do I trust that when I need to have my own back, that I have access to the resources, to my voice, to be able to say this doesn't work or this does work. And if we don't have access to our no, then our yes is really filled with small print.

And so, you know, at the core of regulation is really, like, trust, is that do I trust that when I need to have my own back, that I have access to the resources, to my voice, to be able to say this doesn't work or this does work. And if we don't have access to our no, then our yes is really filled with small print.

So when someone says I have anxiety, anxiety is perceived to be a future-oriented experience, I always look to like, where are you not fully self-expressed? Where do you not have access to all your emotions? And, you know, just making it like more simple that there's core emotions and then there's just like different branches of those core emotions. Like, which emotions do I not have access to?

So when someone says I have anxiety, anxiety is perceived to be a future-oriented experience, I always look to like, where are you not fully self-expressed? Where do you not have access to all your emotions? And, you know, just making it like more simple that there's core emotions and then there's just like different branches of those core emotions. Like, which emotions do I not have access to?

So when someone says I have anxiety, anxiety is perceived to be a future-oriented experience, I always look to like, where are you not fully self-expressed? Where do you not have access to all your emotions? And, you know, just making it like more simple that there's core emotions and then there's just like different branches of those core emotions. Like, which emotions do I not have access to?

Because if you don't have access to expression, then you can't steer your life. If you can't steer your life, your life is going to go kind of rudderlessly in the direction that other people decide for you, likely the expectations of society, culture, family, all that kind of stuff.

Because if you don't have access to expression, then you can't steer your life. If you can't steer your life, your life is going to go kind of rudderlessly in the direction that other people decide for you, likely the expectations of society, culture, family, all that kind of stuff.

Because if you don't have access to expression, then you can't steer your life. If you can't steer your life, your life is going to go kind of rudderlessly in the direction that other people decide for you, likely the expectations of society, culture, family, all that kind of stuff.

I'd say the first one is, do I feel safe with this person? And I think it needs to be coupled with, am I also excited about pursuing this connection?

I'd say the first one is, do I feel safe with this person? And I think it needs to be coupled with, am I also excited about pursuing this connection?

I'd say the first one is, do I feel safe with this person? And I think it needs to be coupled with, am I also excited about pursuing this connection?

A lot of the times someone will say, what's wrong with me? I'm meeting new, reliable people and I don't want to date them or I'm like not finding a connection. And... You had mentioned this earlier. It's like no matter what emotion you're experiencing or no matter what feeling you're experiencing, it's always the doorway into something. So it's like never shame the feeling that's coming forward.

A lot of the times someone will say, what's wrong with me? I'm meeting new, reliable people and I don't want to date them or I'm like not finding a connection. And... You had mentioned this earlier. It's like no matter what emotion you're experiencing or no matter what feeling you're experiencing, it's always the doorway into something. So it's like never shame the feeling that's coming forward.

A lot of the times someone will say, what's wrong with me? I'm meeting new, reliable people and I don't want to date them or I'm like not finding a connection. And... You had mentioned this earlier. It's like no matter what emotion you're experiencing or no matter what feeling you're experiencing, it's always the doorway into something. So it's like never shame the feeling that's coming forward.

Like if someone's hesitant about getting married, you have to follow the hesitation to get to the thing that's rooted in there. It doesn't mean you're not getting married. It just means you're gonna uncover something that might need to be brought forward. Maybe there's a behavior in the other person that is actually in violation of a deep deal breaker that you haven't identified. Who knows?

Like if someone's hesitant about getting married, you have to follow the hesitation to get to the thing that's rooted in there. It doesn't mean you're not getting married. It just means you're gonna uncover something that might need to be brought forward. Maybe there's a behavior in the other person that is actually in violation of a deep deal breaker that you haven't identified. Who knows?

Like if someone's hesitant about getting married, you have to follow the hesitation to get to the thing that's rooted in there. It doesn't mean you're not getting married. It just means you're gonna uncover something that might need to be brought forward. Maybe there's a behavior in the other person that is actually in violation of a deep deal breaker that you haven't identified. Who knows?

But if we shame the thing we're feeling, then, you know, much like we were saying, like, if we identify as being boundaryless, then it's a lot harder to change. But if it's a collection of behaviors and survival strategies that got us exactly where we are, newsflash, they were perfect then. They did exactly what they were meant to do.

But if we shame the thing we're feeling, then, you know, much like we were saying, like, if we identify as being boundaryless, then it's a lot harder to change. But if it's a collection of behaviors and survival strategies that got us exactly where we are, newsflash, they were perfect then. They did exactly what they were meant to do.