Mark Manson

Is it serving me?

What else could be true potentially?

And then putting it back.

And then you look at something like CBT and it's, it's kind of, it's more of a holistic model.

It's kind of addressing everything at once, you know, and then some therapies really focus on the emotion, right?

It's like, it's, it's about like

helping you access that emotion really feel it and then once you're feeling it

invite you to kind of reinterpret what it means in your life.

So I think a fun way to view meditation actually is training yourself to simply observe your adaptations without relying upon them.

Anybody who's been on like a meditation retreat, like what happens when you're just sitting on the pillow for hours and hours and hours is like a lot of your mental and emotional tendencies start to like feel separate from yourself.

You get a little bit of distance from them and you can observe them and kind of ask yourself like, oh, it's interesting that I'm like sad.

I wonder why I'm sad.

You know, I always get sad in this sort of situation.

I wonder why that is.

Like, is that useful?

I don't know.

You know, like it allows you to kind of.

detach to a certain degree and look at it a little bit more objectively.

Yeah, that disidentification, I think it's like if you can think about a time where you realize something you believed was wrong

This is part of what makes changing adaptations so difficult is that it's, sometimes it's hard to know why they're there and what they're doing there.