Mary Roach

Oh, yeah, yeah, there was Roy Levin talked about how he was at a, I think it was a conference of urologists maybe, and he did a paper about, I think it was vaginal secretions.

He's like, nobody knows, nobody has ever looked at vaginal secretions, what's in them, how are they secreted.

I mean, nobody had looked at that, so he's like, I'm going to look at that.

Yeah.

And he described being in the men's room inside the stall and hearing people, like, joking about him in the bathroom.

You know, just, yeah.

Yeah.

And these are MDs.

You know, I wasn't finding very many papers just about, like, what works best for amazing sex.

But then I found these papers from 1979, and it was Masters and Johnson, and they brought in, they called them reacting units, couples.

They were couples.

They were couples.

The reacting units, he brought in hetero reacting units, gay and lesbian reacting units, and he had them.

He actually had people hooking up.

So he found that the couples that were actually in relationships, particularly gay and lesbian relationships,

were having the best sex.

And part of that, he was saying, was gender empathy, which is to say, if you're a man, you know what feels best.

And if you're a woman, you know what feels best.

And so the gay and lesbian couples, it was very easy for them to, you know, based on their own experience of their own bodies, to know kind of what to do and what feels good.

Whereas in the hetero couples, like the men would complain that the woman wasn't holding the penis hard enough.