Massimo Pigliucci

That's insane.

That's just crazy.

You know that people are in a certain way.

There is a place in the meditation when he says, you know, remember when you get up in the morning and you get out of the door, remind yourself that you will encounter all sorts of inconsiderate people who will do all sorts of things that you don't like.

This is just a fact of life.

Now, you can deal with the situation.

In some cases, you can correct them.

I don't want to give the impression that stoicism is about just laying back and taking it, right?

This is called the danger of doormatism, of turning yourself into a doormat so that everybody walks all over you.

That's not the point.

marcus says explicitly there are two things you can do when somebody's behaving in a way that you disapprove of one is to teach them to explain to them you know look this is problematic because and then failing that you can bear with them you can you can use your ability to uh your patience your ability to withstand things as a result because what else are you going to do right

Those are pretty much your two options.

So you just have to, it's not that the two are incompatible.

Of course, you're going to argue and you're going to try to do things in order to improve the situation.

But if that fails, then you have to accept that, okay, this time reality didn't go my way.

Too bad.

Yep, exactly.

So he's saying, look, there are certain things that inevitably have certain consequences.

if you are in the business of working wood, well, there's going to be sawdust.

So you cannot complain.