Matt Abrahams

Grace is really important in this. I think what helps many people is to realize that they're not alone in this, that lots of people suffer from this. A real quick story. The very first book I wrote was called Speaking Up Without Freaking Out. It's all about how to manage anxiety. I was in San Francisco airport.

You wanted to look your best being. You wanted to show up as best as you could. That's a lot of pressure you're putting on yourself. So by removing that goal, what's making you nervous in that situation is the goal to come off in the way you want it to come off. A goal is a future state. So what's making you nervous is a potential negative future outcome.

You wanted to look your best being. You wanted to show up as best as you could. That's a lot of pressure you're putting on yourself. So by removing that goal, what's making you nervous in that situation is the goal to come off in the way you want it to come off. A goal is a future state. So what's making you nervous is a potential negative future outcome.

You wanted to look your best being. You wanted to show up as best as you could. That's a lot of pressure you're putting on yourself. So by removing that goal, what's making you nervous in that situation is the goal to come off in the way you want it to come off. A goal is a future state. So what's making you nervous is a potential negative future outcome.

You wanted to look your best being. You wanted to show up as best as you could. That's a lot of pressure you're putting on yourself. So by removing that goal, what's making you nervous in that situation is the goal to come off in the way you want it to come off. A goal is a future state. So what's making you nervous is a potential negative future outcome.

You wanted to look your best being. You wanted to show up as best as you could. That's a lot of pressure you're putting on yourself. So by removing that goal, what's making you nervous in that situation is the goal to come off in the way you want it to come off. A goal is a future state. So what's making you nervous is a potential negative future outcome.

They called my name over the loudspeaker because the chair I was supposed to sit in on the airplane was broken and they wanted to let me know that. I come back and the guy standing next to me said, you wrote that book on speaking anxiety. I said, yes. Have you read it? He said, no, but it helped me. I was like, you didn't read the book, but it helped you? What do you mean?

They called my name over the loudspeaker because the chair I was supposed to sit in on the airplane was broken and they wanted to let me know that. I come back and the guy standing next to me said, you wrote that book on speaking anxiety. I said, yes. Have you read it? He said, no, but it helped me. I was like, you didn't read the book, but it helped you? What do you mean?

They called my name over the loudspeaker because the chair I was supposed to sit in on the airplane was broken and they wanted to let me know that. I come back and the guy standing next to me said, you wrote that book on speaking anxiety. I said, yes. Have you read it? He said, no, but it helped me. I was like, you didn't read the book, but it helped you? What do you mean?

They called my name over the loudspeaker because the chair I was supposed to sit in on the airplane was broken and they wanted to let me know that. I come back and the guy standing next to me said, you wrote that book on speaking anxiety. I said, yes. Have you read it? He said, no, but it helped me. I was like, you didn't read the book, but it helped you? What do you mean?

They called my name over the loudspeaker because the chair I was supposed to sit in on the airplane was broken and they wanted to let me know that. I come back and the guy standing next to me said, you wrote that book on speaking anxiety. I said, yes. Have you read it? He said, no, but it helped me. I was like, you didn't read the book, but it helped you? What do you mean?

And he said, just knowing that a book like that existed helped him normalize his fear. He said, I thought I was the only one because at my work, everybody's so good, but I realized you didn't just write the book for me. So my point here is you have to give yourself a little grace.

And he said, just knowing that a book like that existed helped him normalize his fear. He said, I thought I was the only one because at my work, everybody's so good, but I realized you didn't just write the book for me. So my point here is you have to give yourself a little grace.

And he said, just knowing that a book like that existed helped him normalize his fear. He said, I thought I was the only one because at my work, everybody's so good, but I realized you didn't just write the book for me. So my point here is you have to give yourself a little grace.

And he said, just knowing that a book like that existed helped him normalize his fear. He said, I thought I was the only one because at my work, everybody's so good, but I realized you didn't just write the book for me. So my point here is you have to give yourself a little grace.

And he said, just knowing that a book like that existed helped him normalize his fear. He said, I thought I was the only one because at my work, everybody's so good, but I realized you didn't just write the book for me. So my point here is you have to give yourself a little grace.

So if we can make ourselves more present-oriented, by definition, I'm not worried about the future. So anything you can do to get more present. Some ways to get present are to do something physical, walk around the building, do some light exercise. You could listen to a song or a playlist like athletes do to get present-oriented. Start at 100 and count backwards by seven teens.

So if we can make ourselves more present-oriented, by definition, I'm not worried about the future. So anything you can do to get more present. Some ways to get present are to do something physical, walk around the building, do some light exercise. You could listen to a song or a playlist like athletes do to get present-oriented. Start at 100 and count backwards by seven teens.

So if we can make ourselves more present-oriented, by definition, I'm not worried about the future. So anything you can do to get more present. Some ways to get present are to do something physical, walk around the building, do some light exercise. You could listen to a song or a playlist like athletes do to get present-oriented. Start at 100 and count backwards by seven teens.

So if we can make ourselves more present-oriented, by definition, I'm not worried about the future. So anything you can do to get more present. Some ways to get present are to do something physical, walk around the building, do some light exercise. You could listen to a song or a playlist like athletes do to get present-oriented. Start at 100 and count backwards by seven teens.