Matt Abrahams

Or I can ask a question, a follow-up question, a clarifying question. That gives me time. I can paraphrase what you said, again, building in time.

Using questions and paraphrasing are also other tools you can use, not just to buy time, but if I'm in an interaction where I'm feeling a little tongue-tied and not sure what to say, I can contribute a question or just paraphrase what's been going on in the interaction.

Using questions and paraphrasing are also other tools you can use, not just to buy time, but if I'm in an interaction where I'm feeling a little tongue-tied and not sure what to say, I can contribute a question or just paraphrase what's been going on in the interaction.

Using questions and paraphrasing are also other tools you can use, not just to buy time, but if I'm in an interaction where I'm feeling a little tongue-tied and not sure what to say, I can contribute a question or just paraphrase what's been going on in the interaction.

That's a very, either of those are meaningful contributions that don't require the same level of risk in deep thinking that actually speaking in the moment does. So if you're part of a meeting and you feel like I want to contribute, but I just don't know what to say, just ask a question or just paraphrase.

That's a very, either of those are meaningful contributions that don't require the same level of risk in deep thinking that actually speaking in the moment does. So if you're part of a meeting and you feel like I want to contribute, but I just don't know what to say, just ask a question or just paraphrase.

That's a very, either of those are meaningful contributions that don't require the same level of risk in deep thinking that actually speaking in the moment does. So if you're part of a meeting and you feel like I want to contribute, but I just don't know what to say, just ask a question or just paraphrase.

So what we've really been talking about for the last few minutes is this, that's an incredibly helpful step in communication and it gives you time and builds courage to actually say more meaningful things.

So what we've really been talking about for the last few minutes is this, that's an incredibly helpful step in communication and it gives you time and builds courage to actually say more meaningful things.

So what we've really been talking about for the last few minutes is this, that's an incredibly helpful step in communication and it gives you time and builds courage to actually say more meaningful things.

And you are masterful at it. I mean, I've watched your show and you do a really good job of asking important questions. Now, I didn't just say you're stupid because I don't think your questions are stupid questions. What I think they are is they are questions that you have, but they also represent questions that most people have.

And you are masterful at it. I mean, I've watched your show and you do a really good job of asking important questions. Now, I didn't just say you're stupid because I don't think your questions are stupid questions. What I think they are is they are questions that you have, but they also represent questions that most people have.

And you are masterful at it. I mean, I've watched your show and you do a really good job of asking important questions. Now, I didn't just say you're stupid because I don't think your questions are stupid questions. What I think they are is they are questions that you have, but they also represent questions that most people have.

And a good communicator will appreciate that not only because you're doing your end of the interaction, you're showing your interest. But you're actually, if somebody really takes a moment to reflect, you're helping me as the communicator get better.

And a good communicator will appreciate that not only because you're doing your end of the interaction, you're showing your interest. But you're actually, if somebody really takes a moment to reflect, you're helping me as the communicator get better.

And a good communicator will appreciate that not only because you're doing your end of the interaction, you're showing your interest. But you're actually, if somebody really takes a moment to reflect, you're helping me as the communicator get better.

You're actually giving me input and insight that will make me better because the next time I introduce this concept, I'm going to define the word verbose before I use it. Exactly.

You're actually giving me input and insight that will make me better because the next time I introduce this concept, I'm going to define the word verbose before I use it. Exactly.

You're actually giving me input and insight that will make me better because the next time I introduce this concept, I'm going to define the word verbose before I use it. Exactly.

I think the two most valuable skills of any conversationalist, but especially people who do what you do and what I do on my podcast, is the ability to ask questions and being willing to ask questions that are pretty rudimentary and the ability to paraphrase, to demonstrate I heard you and here's what I took away from you. You are a good conversationalist.