Matt Clark

It's okay to admit you do not want this.

It doesn't mean you're a bad person.

It doesn't mean you don't love her.

But there's a reason people get married.

They all leave and cleave.

There's a sense of independence that we're creating a new life for us together, not dragging everyone along with us and funding their life as well.

And this needs to be between her and her mom.

So that you don't need this triangulation where now it's like you're in the middle going, oh, what do you want to do?

You be the tiebreaker.

You don't want that.

Now you support your wife in setting up the boundaries, but you don't need to get in the middle of it either.

I think she wants you to take a stand.

I don't think she wants you to be Switzerland.

She wants you to bow up and say, you know what, this isn't okay.

And I support you in you stopping this before it gets out of hand.

And then go, hey, we're not going to leave you on the street.

We want to come up with a plan to make sure that you're covered, that the kids are okay.

But that doesn't mean you're going to move in with us.

There's other options, right?

If you guys weren't getting married, what would she do?