Matt Kielty

It's also like don't bully.

What is fairness?

Like there's a kind of like we're in a community of people element of it.

I like that.

But so...

One of the kind of amazing things about this is how weirdly Jennifer... Well, we should be careful about the kind of praise that we give.

The researcher who spent her entire career looking at self-esteem kind of wound up in the same place for herself as like the schools have.

What do you mean?

So then what is, I mean, well, so I asked Jennifer, I was like, you know, being a kid in the 90s, I still have this question of like, but how do you feel good?

It is good to feel good about yourself.

How does one find self-worth in a way that's healthy?

I think by not worrying about it.

So am I a person of worth and value?

It's not a helpful question.

It just doesn't do anything for you to ask that question or for other people.

And a much better or more helpful question is, how do I want to be right now?

How might I support other people, for example?

But really, what contribution, what thing that's larger than me is important to me?

So she told us about one of the studies she did.

It was looking at roommates.