Matthew Hussey

There's a British poet, David White, who can't stand the culture of hashtag no regrets that we all live in today.

He said, anytime I hear someone say no regrets, I think, where have you been?

Regret is actually important.

It serves a very important function.

When you regret how you treated someone in high school because you were mean to someone or you bullied someone and that affects you, it might change the way you treat people for the rest of your life.

If you didn't regret it, you wouldn't change.

Do I believe once a cheater, always a cheater?

I think life's more complicated than that.

And I think that part of having compassion for ourselves is realizing that other people are capable and worthy of forgiveness too.

But, and there is a really, really, really big but here.

It's not your job to fix what someone else broke.

The trauma of that kind of betrayal is deep for most people.

Extraordinarily deep.

So if you betray someone in that way, you better, if you want that relationship, you better understand the journey that is ahead.

Because there is a long journey ahead.

You are not in a sprint.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

That's a sprint.

You're in a marathon.

And you saying sorry might be an acknowledgement today.