Matthew Hussey

And my guess is the part of that is in learning to really trust yourself, I'm going to take a wild guess and say that what you're really afraid of is someone coming into your life who you, God forbid, like.

And that rocks everything up.

Because all of a sudden, it feels like there is an element of your joy that you do not have complete control over.

And maybe what's happened in the past

is you have been in a situation where you like someone and all of a sudden you felt very out of control because you couldn't trust yourself not to keep over giving in a relationship, not to show up in ways that eventually meant that you got walked over or that your happiness was compromised.

And so there's a desire never to return to that.

And when we have a desire never to return to that, what we really say is, I just got to keep myself away from that temptation because I know if I get too close to it, it's not someone else will mess up my life, I will mess up my life.

Because the reality is, and this is the important thing for you to remember,

If you trust yourself, you don't need to worry about the impact anyone else is gonna have on your life.

You don't have to trust anyone else.

People go, how can I learn to trust again?

Don't worry about it.

Just trust you.

Trust not that someone's never gonna betray you or they're never gonna come along and start taking too much or taking advantage of your generosity.

Trust that the moment someone starts doing that, you can have a boundary.

And if that boundary isn't respected, you have the power to walk away.

When you trust yourself, you don't need to worry about someone else coming in and screwing everything up.

You've already successfully protected yourself.

Yes.

You've already done it.