Matthew Hussey

So the fear that someone's gonna come in and they're gonna take, they can't.

You already did it.

You already achieved it.

You're already fine on your own.

So you can go back to that anytime you want.

You just proved that with the life you've been living.

now go out there and make an actual impact because you didn't create all that safety so that you could never leave the house.

You created all of that safety so that you could leave the house and you could go blow shit up and know that you could always come home if you had to.

Two things come to mind, Maya.

The first is that that over giving is something that's meeting a need for you.

It's working for you on some level.

And it's important to figure out what that's doing.

It might make you feel safe.

Because when you find someone who just needs a lot from you, that's not the kind of person that will abandon you.

But when you actually go out and meet an equal, that's scary as shit.

Because that person can leave you.

Just like Piavec can leave someone.

She's a scary woman.

She can leave.

Right, that makes her a force, that makes her much scarier to date than someone who absolutely needs all of the help in the world.