Maya Shankar

And

I swear to God, Jason, as this list flowed out of me, I felt something magical happen.

I instantly zoomed out on my life.

I realized that in my single-minded pursuit of this goal of becoming a mom for years and years and years, I had lost sight of

of how otherwise rich and multidimensional my life was, right?

I had been wearing blinders.

I had tunnel vision.

And it had prevented me from seeing that, yes, this change was happening.

And one of my dreams I was seeing kind of dissipate, but I was still whole.

my life still had so much meaning and purpose.

There was so much reason to still wake up the next day and feel optimistic.

And, you know, did I go to bed like feeling great that night?

Of course not.

But did I feel, did I go to bed feeling more intact?

Absolutely.

And did I feel like to the question of denial, I was more able to register my reality because it didn't feel like a complete threat on my existence?

Yes.

So that's one technique.

I have a couple

You have shared, I mean, just saying the guilt thing, I felt that in spades.