Megan Kozak

I'm not going to say I love you because I really want it back, right?

It's a free gift that I'm offering.

So just checking if I feel it and I'm ready for it and I'm able to acknowledge the fact that they may not be, is that going to be okay?

Do I still want to share it with this person?

I think a good time to say it is when the words feel really true, right?

When they're grounded in reality, not idealization.

Yeah.

So not just like, I've got a dream once that I'd meet someone who looks like you, it must be you, right?

Or like, I just hear the most spectacular things.

Sometimes I had a list and you checked all of the boxes.

So I guess I must love you.

Like, slow down, right?

Let's ground it in reality.

Is this person someone who makes my nervous system feel really safe?

Right?

Is this someone who is able to hear me and I'm able to hear them?

Is this someone who, if I say, I'm not ready to say that back to you, is going to probably give me a big cuddle and say, I get it because I get you, rather than getting really mad about the fact that I'm not there yet.

That's what I'm looking for, right?

If I know it's going to be a good time and a good person.

What do you think?