Megan Kozak

I mean, I would definitely avoid those two.

We don't always make our best decisions in those moments.

And this is a pretty big decision to make in someone else's heart.

I think I'd be looking for even more broader things than that, right?

If I'm saying this to reduce my own anxiety, right?

I'm hoping that like my anxious attachment feels a little bit better.

It's probably not a great reason for it.

Yeah.

If I'm saying it because I want to get a specific response, or even if I want to accelerate the relationship.

I feel like we've been really stuck.

And so if I say, I love you, maybe that'll kind of move us forward.

It's not a great reason.

This is not the accelerator button.

It's got to feel really real.

And also during an emotional crisis or an emotional high, and that sometimes ties into drugs and alcohol.

Yeah.

So we can use those because we're having an emotional high and I just love everybody, including you right now, right?

Or I'm in the middle of an emotional crisis and you were there for me.

Therefore, I just love you.

But maybe it's not quite the kind of love that you want to be thinking of.