Megyn Kelly

And it's like, well, I think this, well, I think that.

And you're fighting and you win.

You win the argument.

and you feel great because you won, you were the superior one.

And he asked the question, how can you win when the person you love most in the world is losing?

And I love that question.

It's exactly right.

Like if you truly love somebody, you're not looking to defeat them.

You don't feel better when you've quote beaten them.

The only way of winning is either not to play, not to play the argument or to find a way where both of you feel good at the end.

And I think that's a general philosophy for life too when it comes to dating and being with somebody of the opposite sex.

Like the whole goal should be to lift them up, to wake up in the morning asking yourself how you can make their life better.

And ideally for it to work well, they're asking themselves that same question about you.

And the way a great argument should go is like,

I think I'm to blame for the following reasons.

And the other person is saying, no, actually, I think I'm to blame for the following reasons.

Like in a perfect world, you can evolve to where you get that generous with members of the opposite sex or the person that you've chosen to date or ideally spend your life with.

I don't know.

I think that's the key to a healthy relationship.

And it definitely changed my second marriage from my first.