Mel Robbins

I want to read to you from your best-selling book, Finding Meaning, about this topic.

In my work with grieving people, I've often been asked, where am I trying to find meaning?

The death, the loss, the event, the life of the person I loved, or am I trying to find meaning in my own life after the loss?

My answer is yes, yes, yes, and yes.

You may find meaning in all of those things, which will lead you to deeper questions and deeper answers.

Maybe your meaning will come by finding rituals that commemorate your loved one's life or by offering some kind of contribution that will honor that person.

Or the loss of your loved one may cause you to deepen your connection to those who are still with you, or to invite back into your life people from whom you've been estranged.

Or it may give you a heightened sense of the beauty of the life we are all so privileged to have as long as we remain on this earth.

What can that look like in everyday life for somebody who is grieving?

In chapter 12, page 191, you have this beautiful section.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

The question is, how do we learn to remember that person with more love than pain?

This is a question, not a mandate.

I am the first to say that there is no getting around the pain.

You have to go through it because it is an inevitable result of the separation we are experiencing.

It's a brutal, forced separation.

you have been robbed of what is dearest to you.

The pain you feel is proportionate to the love you had.