Mel Robbins

What does the ick really mean?

Is it just an excuse to cut someone off?

And is it really at the surface level?

Or what is it about?

You know, there's a lot of questions that we got about the average of how many people are men and women talking to at the same time.

And making the decision to close because what you close also informs the algorithm of who you're shown next.

I love this question.

Are we overthinking initial communication with a new person by playing games or not being overly enthusiastic or leaving them wanting more by not responding quickly, actually helping us or hurting us?

So is the advice just be yourself and if you want to communicate, communicate?

That's fair, but I don't know what the hell to say to my kids because when I look at them obsessing over this kind of thing, I'm just, send a damn text.

Like, what the hell's wrong with you?

But you just...

made me realize, oh, wait, like I don't even think about digital body language.

The thing about texting is it's easy.

If they wanted to see you, they'd be making plans.

A lot of people in this age group mistake texting for somebody being interested.

And I think you should look at texting as somebody being bored.

And if they're not actually moving it into real life, they're not interested in you, full stop.

I also love the emphasis on the whole point is to connect somewhere, whether it's in real life or it's on the app, it's all dating, and then get off the app as fast as you can to actually be with the person.

I love the three-day rule.