Mel Robbins

If someone that you love is grieving, how do you help them?

Two things.

What are the things you should never say to somebody who's grieving?

What should you say instead?

You have this practice, David, called a living amends contract.

Will you walk me through it and just explain why it works?

Sure.

A lot of people writing in talked about this lingering feeling of guilt for laughing or starting to date again or falling in love or even just catching yourself.

Enjoying a normal day because it feels like in order to move on, right, you're letting go of the person that you love.

What is that?

You know, if you are left with a mess in the wake of a loss, whether it's the bills, the paperwork, the family tension that can happen in death and in divorce and number of other things that create grief for us,

What can someone do if you're the one having to deal with this mess now?

David, I want to ask you some of the questions that we received from listeners, and this one comes from Aaliyah.

My life took a turn I never expected.

ALS is a brutal disease with no cure, and watching my dad slowly lose his abilities has been heartbreaking.

It's hard to accept that he may not be there to see me graduate, get married, or have kids.

The emotional weight of that at 21 is exhausting.

How do you deal with anticipatory grief?

How do you do that?

How do you experience the moments as you're watching somebody that you love die or succumb to Alzheimer's or just you're grieving the life you thought you would have while you're still living the life with this person that's not gone yet?