Mel Robbins

No one loves you like your mother is a section.

Mother hunger, yearning for maternal love, can come from well-meaning mothers who could not be there or from mothers who were there and wanted to love but did not have the proper infrastructure for attachment programmed into their own psyches.

Mother hunger does not discriminate based on race or class because infant needs are universal.

The kind of care we received as infants and toddlers teaches us whether we are worthy, lovable, and safe.

Truly, what I've found is that having an unkind or neglectful mother can be just as damaging as having no mother at all.

I want to hover there.

How does having an unkind

mother?

Somebody very critical of you, of your weight, of your looks, of the things that you do, somebody not supportive of the things that you're interested in.

How is that as damaging as having no mother at all?

So what about a lot of people that I see that write in talk about tension with their mom because there's a lot of loyalty owed.

I gave up this for you.

I expect you to be this.

There's this sort of subtle thing that if you're not exactly like your mom, there's a betrayal.

if you have different interests, if you have a different style, if you have a different sexual orientation, that there is this tit for tat loyalty thing underneath it.

Is that also in the lane of unkind?

Or if I don't do as she pleases exactly, she is not happy.

And it looks like your best friends.

Your best friends.

That is a beautiful distinction.