Mel Robbins

And I am going to accept that, but I'm going to look to myself for the nurturing and for the protection and safety and for the guidance.

I think that's the invitation here, because when you do that, now you're a different parent.

You're a different partner.

You're a different daughter.

You're a different you.

Well, what I also like about this, because I'm sharing this conversation immediately with my two daughters, I want to know, like, what actually, where was there a mismatch?

Sure.

But what I think is very hopeful is that if you have a word for it, you can talk about it.

That makes so much sense.

Before we go deeper, here's what I actually want to know.

Why are we more irritated with our moms?

Like it burns me up.

Chris can do no damn wrong, but I am always the one that drives everybody crazy.

What is this?

Is this me or is this like a normal thing that most moms feel like?

Yeah, very universal.

If you're actually biologically wired to attach to mom because you were fashioned inside her and you were created in her body, and then you are also drawn toward her, when you go through that phase naturally of starting to push away from your parents and separate, she's the one you have to actually push away more.

Yes.

Whoa, I cannot wait to talk to my daughters about that because I really think it's important that we lean into this sense of guilt and betrayal that we feel when we look with clear eyes at our childhood and the way that we feel about our relationship to our moms, okay?

So this is page 13.