Mel Robbins

And, you know, when someone in the family put a hand on this little boy's shoulder and said, you got to be strong for mom.

And that became strong for mom, became the...

in this person's mind that has really defined the way in which they've expressed emotion or not expressed emotion or believe that they needed to be stoic.

And in the context of your research,

I would imagine you would say that the being open and the sharing of emotion is really the opportunity to break the hold that Strong for Mom has on you.

Completely, completely.

So what is the life of an undersharer look like?

It is.

And how do you know if you're an undersher versus somebody who is just very much like shy or introverted or just a little bit more of an observer?

Because is that aimed at me?

But I think that's an important thing that those of us that may be a little bit more talkative doesn't necessarily mean you're actually practicing the skill and art of sharing.

Completely, completely.

I love that distinction because when you bring in the word open,

How open are you?

How much do you actually share versus the blah, blah, blah, blah, blah?

That's an important distinction because when you first kind of dive into your work, you might think, oh, okay, I just got to be super vulnerable, a completely open book, I got to blah, blah, blah.

And it's both extremes.

It's knowing when to be open and when to be guarded.

Right.

So how do you know the difference between being the kind of person that tends to just be shy or introverted?