Melissa Urban

Yeah. Well, by the time I wrote my books, I was pretty decent at boundaries, especially around my- With Whole30? Yes, especially around my entrepreneuring because I figured out super fast when I quit my full-time job.

Yeah. Well, by the time I wrote my books, I was pretty decent at boundaries, especially around my- With Whole30? Yes, especially around my entrepreneuring because I figured out super fast when I quit my full-time job.

No, not as much. That's what I'm saying.

No, not as much. That's what I'm saying.

Not as much. I had some in some areas, right? Around my drug addiction and recovery, really solid boundaries. Sure. But no, not- From relationships. Yeah, relationships, especially with family, parents.

Not as much. I had some in some areas, right? Around my drug addiction and recovery, really solid boundaries. Sure. But no, not- From relationships. Yeah, relationships, especially with family, parents.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Definitely.

Definitely.

It's freedom. Yeah, it's literally freedom. What is available on the other side is freedom. And that's really at the heart of my boundary practice. I think so many people think that boundaries are about pushing people away or holding them at a distance or that they're controlling or manipulative. boundaries are a gift in your relationship.

It's freedom. Yeah, it's literally freedom. What is available on the other side is freedom. And that's really at the heart of my boundary practice. I think so many people think that boundaries are about pushing people away or holding them at a distance or that they're controlling or manipulative. boundaries are a gift in your relationship.

Even in a relationship in which you are so close and so open and so vulnerable, like with my husband, we still have boundaries that are healthy for both of us. And so on the other side of like opening this box and exploring it will simply come a new set of boundaries.

Even in a relationship in which you are so close and so open and so vulnerable, like with my husband, we still have boundaries that are healthy for both of us. And so on the other side of like opening this box and exploring it will simply come a new set of boundaries.

And hopefully those boundaries have continued to expand our relationship and they continue to allow me to show up in a way that still feels good to me. and safe to me. And then as that relationship progresses, hopefully I can back those boundaries off because showing up all the time or most of the time feels good and safe. That's what's on the other side of it. It's really freedom.

And hopefully those boundaries have continued to expand our relationship and they continue to allow me to show up in a way that still feels good to me. and safe to me. And then as that relationship progresses, hopefully I can back those boundaries off because showing up all the time or most of the time feels good and safe. That's what's on the other side of it. It's really freedom.

Correct.

Correct.

Yeah. And it's not even distancing, right? What it's essential... I'm not distancing myself from my husband or from my son when I set a boundary. What I am saying is...

Yeah. And it's not even distancing, right? What it's essential... I'm not distancing myself from my husband or from my son when I set a boundary. What I am saying is...