Melissa Urban

And like, what would that look like? What does it look like? And are there limits that I can set in between letting them run me over exactly the way they are and cutting off the relationship altogether? Because there are a lot of things I think that you could do in between. to preserve the relationship in a way that works for you.

And like, what would that look like? What does it look like? And are there limits that I can set in between letting them run me over exactly the way they are and cutting off the relationship altogether? Because there are a lot of things I think that you could do in between. to preserve the relationship in a way that works for you.

You just have to be willing to find it and then ultimately hold it for yourself. Oh, man. I know. It's not easy, but I don't want to be in a relationship that makes me feel like crap every time I show up or that doesn't allow me to be my fullest self or that hurts me every time I'm there.

You just have to be willing to find it and then ultimately hold it for yourself. Oh, man. I know. It's not easy, but I don't want to be in a relationship that makes me feel like crap every time I show up or that doesn't allow me to be my fullest self or that hurts me every time I'm there.

I don't think that it is. And I can't make that decision for anybody else. If you say, no, she's my mom and I want to maintain a relationship with my mom and she's family and I'm going to, then that's your decision, but I want you to go into it eyes open.

I don't think that it is. And I can't make that decision for anybody else. If you say, no, she's my mom and I want to maintain a relationship with my mom and she's family and I'm going to, then that's your decision, but I want you to go into it eyes open.

There absolutely are. And this is why there's no one-size-fits-all boundary scenario. Because what might feel like an annoyance to you might be really harmful to somebody else. What one family is like, oh my gosh, how could you interact like that as a family? That wouldn't work for us. As somebody else is like, absolutely, drop over whenever you want. You don't even have to knock. Right, right.

There absolutely are. And this is why there's no one-size-fits-all boundary scenario. Because what might feel like an annoyance to you might be really harmful to somebody else. What one family is like, oh my gosh, how could you interact like that as a family? That wouldn't work for us. As somebody else is like, absolutely, drop over whenever you want. You don't even have to knock. Right, right.

There is no one size fits all. The door is always open. Absolutely. Stay anytime you want. But I do like this idea of asking myself, like, what is the story I'm telling myself about this? And like, is there some examination of that that I could do on my end?

There is no one size fits all. The door is always open. Absolutely. Stay anytime you want. But I do like this idea of asking myself, like, what is the story I'm telling myself about this? And like, is there some examination of that that I could do on my end?

Sure.

Sure.

Yes.

Yes.

I think so. Yes.

I think so. Yes.

I like that you asked that question. Thank you. This conversation was everything. I always love coming in here to talk to you. And I always feel like you get me to share more than I thought I was going to, but in like a really safe and authentic way. So I appreciate that. I always enjoy our talks. Thank you.

I like that you asked that question. Thank you. This conversation was everything. I always love coming in here to talk to you. And I always feel like you get me to share more than I thought I was going to, but in like a really safe and authentic way. So I appreciate that. I always enjoy our talks. Thank you.