Melissa Urban

Yeah, it took me away. It was the first thing that took me as far away from myself as I wanted to be.

Yeah, it took me away. It was the first thing that took me as far away from myself as I wanted to be.

Well, I mean, it started when I went into rehab twice. I went in twice. Right. The second time it really stuck. And I decided I was going to really change every aspect of my life and really become this healthy person with healthy habits. That was really the first time I ever set boundaries around my addiction and my recovery. And I think that's what changed it for me.

Well, I mean, it started when I went into rehab twice. I went in twice. Right. The second time it really stuck. And I decided I was going to really change every aspect of my life and really become this healthy person with healthy habits. That was really the first time I ever set boundaries around my addiction and my recovery. And I think that's what changed it for me.

That's why I didn't have a second relapse. But then it was just a process. So I started exercising and I certainly exercised to an unhealthy degree, but then that modulated itself. And then I started eating healthier and did my first full 30 and was like, oh, wow, the way you're using food is not super healthy.

That's why I didn't have a second relapse. But then it was just a process. So I started exercising and I certainly exercised to an unhealthy degree, but then that modulated itself. And then I started eating healthier and did my first full 30 and was like, oh, wow, the way you're using food is not super healthy.

And, you know, then I went back to therapy and started talking about more things, but not all the things. And I went through my divorce and really started talking about all the things. So it's been like a process for sure. Wow. Yeah, and I'm sure I'll talk to you two or three years from now and be like, oh, since we've talked, I've done like X, Y, and Z, and here are the other things I've done.

And, you know, then I went back to therapy and started talking about more things, but not all the things. And I went through my divorce and really started talking about all the things. So it's been like a process for sure. Wow. Yeah, and I'm sure I'll talk to you two or three years from now and be like, oh, since we've talked, I've done like X, Y, and Z, and here are the other things I've done.

I'm like a way better mom than I ever thought I would be. I'm a really good mom. I have a well of patience for my child that nobody in my life, myself included, knew existed. And I have a sense of love for him that I've never before experienced and never will again. I'm a way better mom than I thought I would be. And I'm really proud of that.

I'm like a way better mom than I ever thought I would be. I'm a really good mom. I have a well of patience for my child that nobody in my life, myself included, knew existed. And I have a sense of love for him that I've never before experienced and never will again. I'm a way better mom than I thought I would be. And I'm really proud of that.

I love my kiddo.

I love my kiddo.

Yeah, I see that now. He's nine. He's in a nice little sweet spot now.

Yeah, I see that now. He's nine. He's in a nice little sweet spot now.

So this is the thing. If your boundary is you telling other people what you are willing to do to keep yourself safe and healthy. That doesn't always mean that the outcome is desirable. If you're talking about boundaries at work and they won't respect them, are you willing to transfer departments, go to HR, look for a new job?

So this is the thing. If your boundary is you telling other people what you are willing to do to keep yourself safe and healthy. That doesn't always mean that the outcome is desirable. If you're talking about boundaries at work and they won't respect them, are you willing to transfer departments, go to HR, look for a new job?

If it's boundaries with a family member and they will not respect them to the point where it is seriously harming your relationship, your physical health, your mental health, Are you willing to cut that person off? Are you willing to take a break from them or seriously limit the way that you choose to engage with them?

If it's boundaries with a family member and they will not respect them to the point where it is seriously harming your relationship, your physical health, your mental health, Are you willing to cut that person off? Are you willing to take a break from them or seriously limit the way that you choose to engage with them?

We will communicate only via email and text at this point, not in person, not on the phone. You have actions that you are able to take, but that doesn't mean that those actions are always easy or always your desired outcome. And then what you have to ask yourself is how willing am I to let this person continue to harm me for the sake of preserving this relationship?

We will communicate only via email and text at this point, not in person, not on the phone. You have actions that you are able to take, but that doesn't mean that those actions are always easy or always your desired outcome. And then what you have to ask yourself is how willing am I to let this person continue to harm me for the sake of preserving this relationship?