Melissa Vranjes

Yeah.

Well, you're hardwiring one pleasure pathway in your body.

When we don't diversify our pleasure, which is why I always say bring in manual stim, bring in your toys, sure.

But don't just always go for the same thing, doing the same thing because you're

like really ingraining only one pleasure pathway and then your body it's just one neurological pathway in the body that's going this is the only way that i can come you know but if it's like okay this session i'm not going to use my satisfier pro i'm going to do manual stimulation and i'm going to be completely fine that it may take like triple the time which is why most people are like oh it's

Fuck it, this is taking too long.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly.

But, yeah, you're going to help your partnered sex life when you actually bring in more manual stim as well.

Toys are great.

Toys are fantastic.

But I just think we need to diversify our pleasure.

Okay, when we know what we want, we can better communicate it with somebody else.

So the example I gave, it's like, hey, here's the treasure chest, but I'm not going to give you the path to get there.

When we have got some bit of the path mapped out for our lovers, we can share that with them.

We can communicate.

And it's going to mean that we experience more pleasure.

We get there quicker.

They're not guessing anything.

no one's reading each other's minds it's just like hey here's what works you know instead of wasting all this time of like receiving something it's like oh god that is they're really off like they're really off you know and you have these sessions so learning about yourself and then being able to communicate that huge benefit amazing right so then you just have to communicate oh god

She's not there.