Melissa Vranjes

Your pleasure is your responsibility.

And I think, honestly, the standard is that you give me an orgasm.

I think that's the standard.

Most people don't come into that place of like my pleasure is my responsibility, which when we break that down, it means like I need to understand my body to experience more pleasure.

I shouldn't rely on you anymore.

to learn about my body me not taking any responsibility or taking a part in that and you just making that thing happen to my body whereas when i take responsibility for my pleasure and i learn about like this u spot or this a spot or g spot and i touch myself there and i give myself an orgasm i can then go to a partner and say hey can you try this thing like can you do that thing to me you know and it's like they're not guessing they're like oh my god yeah let me let's try that and it's like oh it's

Does it feel the same?

Let's try this.

You know, it gets to be explorative and fun.

And that's how we experience pleasure.

That's awesome.

So most women require clitoral stimulation and also internal orgasms take time and they take safety.

They take trust.

And a lot of women and men aren't giving themselves time to actually awaken the internal anatomy.

And if we look at statistically, women take anywhere from 30 to 40 minutes to reach an orgasm without vibration and men during penetration, um,

statistically get to orgasm between three to five minutes so you know we're looking at this huge gap here around internal stimulation like it takes you three to five minutes to orgasm from internal stimulation but here's my body and it needs like 15 to 20 minutes of internal stimulation to get there

So I think, yeah, we really need to bring in foreplay, like minimum 15 minutes and we need to be bringing foreplay, like internal foreplay in as well, rather than just going straight to PMV or dildo in the V of, yeah, trying to get someone to have an internal orgasm.

Best way is two things.

First thing, you want to get in your body.

When we get heady and it's like, how long am I taking?