Melissa Vranjes

Absolutely.

Yeah.

It was like, okay, so when I found that and had that whole experience, which felt like betrayal, I also just pulled up all my insecurities of, okay, what do I need to do?

Because obviously this is what turns them on.

And then I went into this long journey of performing in the bedroom, of faking O's, of pretending to like things that I didn't like, of...

being just super like porn starry in the bedroom because you were trying to please him yeah that's it led me on this because there was no education around really like embodied sexuality or female sexuality or pleasure for woman it was just yeah I went down this long journey of just performing

Yeah.

No, but he didn't know.

You know?

Oh, that, yeah.

Anyway, dumped him.

No, he cheated on me.

curiosity always you know we're always going to something even if I feel that ping of betrayal it's just like okay what's happening here what's going on how could I lead this conversation with curiosity like I feel freaked out right now or I feel like I just can't believe that this person's watching porn how do I have that conversation which is like babe I've

scene that you've watched xyz and i want to get curious like is this a fantasy you want to play out is this like something that you're just doing to get off like during the sex that we have like what's going on for you i'm not judging you i'm not shaming you i just i want to get curious around this and i want us to have a really open relationship around porn yep so do you have porn in your relationship no apparently at all no not at all no

In some countries it's fully banned.

Yeah.

It's fully banned.

I think no.

I don't know.

I've definitely had like seasons in my life where I've used it a lot, but...