Melissa Vranjes

Yeah.

I would say probably the more I've become somatic focused, like really body focused and present, and I would say in the last 10 years it hasn't been a big part of my life, no.

Okay.

So it does deliver a high dopamine hit, high speed, high intensity, high climatic point where we wire up our brains and bodies to get turned on super quickly.

And maybe by things that we're not doing in partnered play either.

So it's kind of like wiring up our body to get aroused by these things that aren't happening in coupled play, which is

When we are with a partner, there's more foreplay.

There's slowness.

There's an emotional connection.

There's exploration.

There's clunkiness.

There's making mistakes.

There's laughing.

You know, all these things that make sex a human experience.

But porn takes out all of that.

There's incredibly unrealistic expectations.

There's things that we're not seeing, like pain or uncomfortable positions or things like that.

positions are uncomfortable yeah it looks so easy exactly well and they're getting paid three grand to take it up the ass you know like that is definitely not my love and i need a lot more than that like so yeah i just think when we look at this thing it's like oh but she's enjoying it she enjoyed so my partner will want it too and it's like oh so there's fluffers on the side there's all these things porn is there for entertainment not education so really un

realistic expectations that we think are normal and they're not normal.

So yeah, not great for that.