Melissa

And I had threatened divorce. I felt very trapped. I felt very like, what do I do? I have two boys. How do I get out of this? It was very miserable for a very long time. And I didn't know how to get out of it. But the nail in the coffin was at the end of our relationship, he acknowledged being in love with someone else and wanting to end our marriage.

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

So there's so many layers to that acknowledgement of I think I messed up by not getting out sooner.

So there's so many layers to that acknowledgement of I think I messed up by not getting out sooner.

So there's so many layers to that acknowledgement of I think I messed up by not getting out sooner.

Ich denke, ich bin in der Therapie. Und seit dem Tag, an dem ich all das herausgefunden habe. Und eine Sache, die wir identifiziert haben, ist, dass ich ziemlich versucht habe, meine Heilung zu gestalten. The second I found out this had happened, I think in my mind I thought, this isn't going to tear me down. I'm going to be okay. I'm going to be better.

Ich denke, ich bin in der Therapie. Und seit dem Tag, an dem ich all das herausgefunden habe. Und eine Sache, die wir identifiziert haben, ist, dass ich ziemlich versucht habe, meine Heilung zu gestalten. The second I found out this had happened, I think in my mind I thought, this isn't going to tear me down. I'm going to be okay. I'm going to be better.

Ich denke, ich bin in der Therapie. Und seit dem Tag, an dem ich all das herausgefunden habe. Und eine Sache, die wir identifiziert haben, ist, dass ich ziemlich versucht habe, meine Heilung zu gestalten. The second I found out this had happened, I think in my mind I thought, this isn't going to tear me down. I'm going to be okay. I'm going to be better.

So I understood, broadly speaking, like the phases of healing from a scenario like this. Like you got to date a little bit. You got to blah, blah, blah. Und ich dachte mir, okay, ich werde diese Person finden. Und ich hatte diese Art von, ich zeige ihm die Mentalität, dass das passiert. Ich denke, ich bin klug, ich kann mit Leuten zusammenkommen, ich kann jemanden finden.