Mercedes Coffman

Yes.

And I think the reason why there's such a fear of rejection is because ghosting is such a normalized thing now, which wasn't the case before.

It's not like people are inherently more insecure or have lower self-esteem now.

That's not the case.

It's that ghosting has become more normalized than it's ever been before.

There were ghosters back in the day and years ago.

The difference is that it wasn't a normal thing and there was some shame attached to it.

Nowadays, it could happen almost anonymously.

And you never have to see the person again.

And so a lot of people are afraid of that rejection because it does trigger grief.

Being ghosted isn't just something that you get over because you're like, oh, I just known him for two weeks.

You biochemically are going through withdrawal.

So you're dealing with grief and all the stages of grief.

And so I do think that a lot of people...

Fear that, oh my gosh, if the narrative now is there's no good men left in the world, there's no good women left in dating apps, everybody's saying, well, why would I get in that pool?

And so they start self-sabotaging the moment they see something because they have the confirmatory bias of it's probably not going to work out.

And so the confirmatory bias is going to see what confirms the bias.

So the moment he is delayed in his response or she seems like she's not capable of sustaining attention, people start self-sabotaging.

Ah, this is better off because people don't want to get rejected again.

Yes.