Mia Freedman

So it's not new that that's her domestic arrangement.

She lives, and this is why in lots of ways, Lindy West has become, in this moment, we'll get to 2026, a kind of almost like a conservative commentator's...

fantasy of what a really woke lefty is like.

You know, she lives in a cabin in the woods in the Pacific Northwest and she's got a nose ring and she's living with her, you know, her two, in her thruple, which I think they call a closed triad.

Like it's, it kind of ticks a lot of boxes of stereotypical lefty jokes for those people.

And part of that, let's be really honest, and Lindy talks about this herself, and she thinks this is one of the reasons why people struggle with it a lot, is Roya is kind of conventionally sort of tiny and attractive in a way that Lindy is often written about not feeling.

So people read in a lot into that relationship, even though Lindy West herself has always been very open about it.

Anyway, fast forward to now and why we're talking about it today.

There is a new memoir that Lindy has written called Adult Braces.

The memoir follows Lindy driving across the US after finding out that Aham, who identifies as non-binary but also uses the pronouns he, him, says he wants to open up the marriage.

And basically it's the story of how they got from that wedding day to being in this closed triad in the woods.

And the internet has lost its mind.

Claire Stephens, what are the kind of things they're saying?

So there are a million headlines on Substack, for example, that are all about how she looks like she's in polyamory under duress.

So she's addressed a bit of this in an Instagram Live that she posted the other day.

She said, just to frame this before you hear it, so she's driving in a car when she's talking, so that explains the audio a bit.

But she says, I know I shouldn't respond.

She said, I know I shouldn't bite back.

But some of this is wild.

She sort of explains that Arham had said from the beginning that he wasn't gonna be monogamous, so she sort of frames it as she was making him perform monogamy under duress, and she says the argument that the book is a sort of manual on polyamory is wrong.