Mia Freedman

People change though.

People do change.

I don't know.

I find myself a bit defensive of her because I personally, I like seeing lots of different examples of how women can live their lives.

lots of different kinds of relationships, lots of different dynamics, rather than there was one.

And it's a white picket fence, and the wedding is an ending.

You know, that's the narrative we like to tell.

Fairy tale ending.

Yeah, to a point, but then that's a point in her life where you press pause, because you know that's where you're at, and you're writing that story.

But then you press play again right after you walk down the aisle, and a whole lot of different things happen.

And I think that we love, so the obsession we have, say, with the Lily Allen album, and I share this obsession, West End Girl, is because it confirms all the biases we actually have about polyamory, which are generally, women never want it.

These are the things that we generally decide.

Women never want it.

It's generally an excuse for men to cheat, and it will end in tears.

Now, all those things might be true.

It might well end in tears, but lots of relationships end in tears.

Lots of traditional marriages end in tears.

Lots of people get betrayed by people betraying them, cheating on them when they said they wouldn't, not when they said they would.

So I find it interesting that whether or not Lindy West's marriage or anyone's marriage is healthy, not healthy, whether she should have forgiven him, whether she shouldn't, whatever, it's just why we're all so upset about it, why the internet's so upset about it.

There are lots of memoirs out there about bad relationships, cheating, forgiving cheating, not forgiving cheating, coming to terms, deciding to leave.