Michael Todd
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60 appearances
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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So I would say to you, because I know there's thousands of people watching this that feel that exact same thing. You need to examine the pattern.
man that's so true because if this is a pattern of you continually getting hurt because you do not heal then it might be better for you long term to do the work to heal so that you can cut the cycle yes i think about um um rest in heaven kobe bryant when he when he um tore his achilles and He said he could come back and play before he was fully healed. He was ready.
I mean, and he would have probably been better than nine out of 10 people on the floor. He could have fooled everybody. But he knew he wasn't his 100%. He wasn't his best. He was not his best. So if it came down to the last minute when he really needed to be his best, he wouldn't have what he needed to have. So they took the time for him to actually heal.
What I'm saying is you may be fooling everybody. You made your Instagram is popping. Your business is successful. You got the bag and the body and you got all the different things, but you know, deep down in your soul, your mind, will and emotions, you know, you're still hurting. And so what ends up happening is you come in limping to love. you limp into love. Wow. Instead of leaping into love.
Right. You should be able to go a lot higher, but because you're still aware of the thing that you need to be healed, you don't go. And so what I'm saying is, if this is a pattern, if this is, if it's been the same, it was John and then it was Joey and then it was Julio, then it was Jaquan and then it was Jared.
Like if it, if it's the same thing, you might want to step back and get a new perspective because the pattern is the same. And a season is, of discipline can produce a lifetime of freedom. Come on. And that's where I just my encouragement. I've counseled too many people. I've been around too many people. I've helped so many people get through this hump in their life.
And what they realize is what they're scared of. They need the most. that intentional time with themselves, that intentional time with God, that intentional time with community, that intentional time in counseling.
They need that because if you discover you, if you find out who you were made to be and walk in your purpose and get confident in that thing, then you actually will attract what you really wanna love. And most people are attracting to their insecurities. Ooh, man, that's true. You're attracting based on your trauma, not on the healed version of you. Right.
And so you're looking for somebody to play savior and they can't. They've never been able to have that ability in this life. And so I would just encourage those people, I know it's hard, I know it's frustrating.
I know you probably even tried before, but as someone who can identify with you, like as someone who did not want to face their trauma, did not want to talk about the bad stuff that happened, did not want to even block stuff out. Like, like, no, like I'm not going there. Like the journey that I've gone on, to actually take everything that has damaged me and say, you know what?
I may be damaged, but I'm not destroyed. This thing that was trauma, it actually can be fuel to make me triumph. I learned that the value was still in me. And then once I learned the value was in me, then I could give and add value to other people. And so I'm telling you, it may be hard, but it's going to be worth it. Wow. You've been married for 14 years now? 14 years. 14 years.
Together 21, is that right? Yeah, this is my high school sweetheart. Met her when I was 15 years old, and she's still the finest woman I've ever seen in my life. I love her.
No, I was a boy. I was still messing up.
Yes.
This is this is what I do. And for everybody that's listening, you have to go get my book Relationship Goals. This is not what we're talking about, but it will help you. It's how to win in marriage, dating and sex. And you really need to get that. And my answer to your question, Lewis, is yes. Overwhelmingly. Yes. Two broken people.
who make a decision to do something are way more powerful than a broken person who decides, I don't wanna try. Like trying turns into training And training can change your destiny. And so I've seen it in my life. I've seen it because in the reason I say get the book, because I tell you all the stuff I did. Like I messed up. I jacked up. I lied. I did. I had months of insanity.
I did all that other stuff. But this is my motto. Progression, not perfection. If somebody sees that you are moving forward or making attempts, statistics tell us that their ability to have grace for your mistakes grow exponentially. Wow. Many times people are frustrated by the immobility of somebody or the paralyzation of somebody or the nonchalant. I don't care. I'm not doing nothing attitude.
But when somebody sees somebody trying, their grace goes up significantly. What I'm saying is it can't be one sided. But if two people come together and say, you know what, we've been jacked up, we've been messing each other up. I trigger you. You trigger me. This turns into all of this stuff. We've made mistakes. We've made mistakes. We've jacked up. We've cheated. We've hurt each other.
We spent money that no people didn't know. Let's be real about it. Like I went on a vacation with my girls and you had no idea what was happening or where were you really out with your boys watching the game or were you come on like like real stuff. I have seen all of those things change when people have made a decision. And this is what I say.
I think I told you earlier, it applies to so many areas of your life. When you make a decision, your decision changes into a discipline. You have to do something that's a discipline. OK, we're going to go to counseling once every two weeks. Or we're going to meet with another couple that's older than us and ask them how the hell they didn't kill each other.
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