Michelle Chalfant

afraid, they don't want to set them, they feel guilty, they feel overwhelmed, they don't know how to set them. So yeah, so that's, that's all the boundary is. But I find that people, you know, if we don't have modeling when we're growing up, as far as how to set boundaries, or did you witness healthy boundaries in your life, we become adults, we don't know how to do it.

Of course, there are some people that are good at it, but I got to tell you, after doing this for over 20 years and working with people in live events, working with people in a private practice and membership, like all the places, more people than not are not great at boundaries. Now, let's talk about an entrepreneur. Let's talk about someone in business, a CEO, managing a big team.

Of course, there are some people that are good at it, but I got to tell you, after doing this for over 20 years and working with people in live events, working with people in a private practice and membership, like all the places, more people than not are not great at boundaries. Now, let's talk about an entrepreneur. Let's talk about someone in business, a CEO, managing a big team.

Of course, there are some people that are good at it, but I got to tell you, after doing this for over 20 years and working with people in live events, working with people in a private practice and membership, like all the places, more people than not are not great at boundaries. Now, let's talk about an entrepreneur. Let's talk about someone in business, a CEO, managing a big team.

They may set a boundary through yelling. through screaming, through threatening, those aren't healthy boundaries. Those are confrontational ways of getting people to do something that you want them to do. That's not a healthy boundary. It's not a healthy boundary. And that's how a lot of people think that boundaries go down. And it's not healthy. It's not healthy. So yeah.

They may set a boundary through yelling. through screaming, through threatening, those aren't healthy boundaries. Those are confrontational ways of getting people to do something that you want them to do. That's not a healthy boundary. It's not a healthy boundary. And that's how a lot of people think that boundaries go down. And it's not healthy. It's not healthy. So yeah.

They may set a boundary through yelling. through screaming, through threatening, those aren't healthy boundaries. Those are confrontational ways of getting people to do something that you want them to do. That's not a healthy boundary. It's not a healthy boundary. And that's how a lot of people think that boundaries go down. And it's not healthy. It's not healthy. So yeah.

So yeah, people go, I can take care of myself. No, no, no. You don't need to do it like that. And it's not to say that boundaries need to be flowery. But a boundary might just be like, hey, Heather, you know, every week we go to this, or every month we go to the supper club, or we hang out with our friends on Friday nights. You always pick me up late. Can you please just pick me up early?

So yeah, people go, I can take care of myself. No, no, no. You don't need to do it like that. And it's not to say that boundaries need to be flowery. But a boundary might just be like, hey, Heather, you know, every week we go to this, or every month we go to the supper club, or we hang out with our friends on Friday nights. You always pick me up late. Can you please just pick me up early?

So yeah, people go, I can take care of myself. No, no, no. You don't need to do it like that. And it's not to say that boundaries need to be flowery. But a boundary might just be like, hey, Heather, you know, every week we go to this, or every month we go to the supper club, or we hang out with our friends on Friday nights. You always pick me up late. Can you please just pick me up early?

Or hey, I don't like when you talk about my hair when we're, you know, blah, blah, you know. It could be anything, but it's me speaking up for myself. Instead of going to other people talking about what I want you to do, I got to go directly to you without yelling, without screaming, without threatening, without being confrontational.

Or hey, I don't like when you talk about my hair when we're, you know, blah, blah, you know. It could be anything, but it's me speaking up for myself. Instead of going to other people talking about what I want you to do, I got to go directly to you without yelling, without screaming, without threatening, without being confrontational.

Or hey, I don't like when you talk about my hair when we're, you know, blah, blah, you know. It could be anything, but it's me speaking up for myself. Instead of going to other people talking about what I want you to do, I got to go directly to you without yelling, without screaming, without threatening, without being confrontational.

So I do find, I mean, I used to work with a lot of men and they'd say, my boss did this to me, or I realized I made so and so cry. I'm like, that's not a healthy boundary. Like, let's talk about how we set healthy boundaries. And it's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable.

So I do find, I mean, I used to work with a lot of men and they'd say, my boss did this to me, or I realized I made so and so cry. I'm like, that's not a healthy boundary. Like, let's talk about how we set healthy boundaries. And it's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable.

So I do find, I mean, I used to work with a lot of men and they'd say, my boss did this to me, or I realized I made so and so cry. I'm like, that's not a healthy boundary. Like, let's talk about how we set healthy boundaries. And it's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable.

I want to back up because it's what I find that we are not in touch with are our true needs. So really, what is the need? We go right into, I want you to stop that. But if I say to you, hey, this really makes me feel uncomfortable. Would you please stop? I'm sharing with you what I need because it feels this way. That's very different than just, again, hammering that boundary in.

I want to back up because it's what I find that we are not in touch with are our true needs. So really, what is the need? We go right into, I want you to stop that. But if I say to you, hey, this really makes me feel uncomfortable. Would you please stop? I'm sharing with you what I need because it feels this way. That's very different than just, again, hammering that boundary in.

I want to back up because it's what I find that we are not in touch with are our true needs. So really, what is the need? We go right into, I want you to stop that. But if I say to you, hey, this really makes me feel uncomfortable. Would you please stop? I'm sharing with you what I need because it feels this way. That's very different than just, again, hammering that boundary in.

You know what I mean? Oh my God, I lost your question. I'm thinking about, because when you were talking, the whole time you were talking, I was like, we're really out of touch with our needs and it feels uncomfortable. I think that was your question, why does it feel so uncomfortable? Again, we don't know how to do it. Who taught you, who did you witness when you were growing up?