Michelle Chalfant
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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if you didn't have a belief around whatever she's making you feel, she wouldn't bother you. I'm telling you right now, she wouldn't bother you. And so I worked with this girl up on stage and she said, What came out of it was this nurse was making her feel unseen and discounted.
And it went back to how her stepmother made her feel when her father married her stepmother when she was six or seven years old. And she sat up on stage and she was sobbing. Because I said, how does this woman... It took... I'm not kidding you, Heather. It took... five or 10 minutes to get to the root of it. I mean, this stuff doesn't take long. We just aren't used to going inside and looking.
And I said, you know, what is coming up? When you think about this nurse, this charge nurse, how does it make you feel? Well, I angry. She's a bitch. I said, go under it, go under it, go under it, go under it. And we can hit the root. I'm discounted. I'm not seen. I said, who does that make you feel like? Or who does that make you think of? And she said, my stepmother. I said, feel that.
She felt that she was sobbing, sobbing, sobbing, sobbing. And she says, I'm discounted. Nobody loves me. My father does not defend me. My stepmother is like a monster. She's horrible. I said, OK, so is it true that in the body you are today? And I don't remember. She might have been in her 40s or something like that. She was she was probably in her 40s.
And she said, I said, is it true that you are still discounted? And this is how you do a trigger. You go through and you ask yourself today, in the year, whatever year it is today, is this still true that you are, whatever you're feeling, unseen, unknown, unlovable, all the things. And she says, well, no, I'm not discounted, you know. I'm married. My husband loves me. My kids love me.
And her best friend was there with her. And she goes, and my best friend loves me. And I turned to her best friend. I go, does she, do you love her? She says, I adore her. I said, okay. I said, now feel that to the woman on stage. I said, feel that emotion. What does that feel like? She goes, no, I'm not discounted anymore. I said, okay, what are you instead? I said, feel the answer.
Don't think it, feel it. She said, I'm really accepted by so many people. Really, I have a lot of people that love me. I said, feel that. When you feel something versus thinking it, it anchors a new belief in your system. Oh my God, Heather, I can still see this lady. This was like a five-week course I was teaching. She leaves, she feels fine.
And she goes, well, the rubber will meet the road when I go back to work. She goes, I'm going back to work in two days. I said, okay, cool. I kid you not. This woman goes back to work. She looks at that charge nurse. She has no angst, nothing. And I think when I was doing this course, it was many, like 10, 15 years ago, I remember her, maybe it was like a week or two before we met again.
She comes back, and her friend came in with her, and she goes... I'm not kidding you, Michelle. She actually likes the charge nurse. She goes, she hated her. She goes, I hated this woman for years. She goes, I actually like her now. She goes, there's nothing there. And I said, yeah, because the trigger's gone.
So that's the power of this work that most humans don't walk around this planet understanding that these beliefs are within them. And when we work with them, that's how quickly we can transform. I have the whole trigger process in the adult chair book. Like I break it down so simply. All you gotta do is plug in whatever your issue is. And I promise you, you can transform it. It is that simple.
I've done this for 20 years now. It's that easy. No joke.
Nobody. I'm not kidding you, Heather. It's that easy. But we, again, how many of your friends and family, how often do people call you and go, Heather, you're not gonna believe what happened. Do they ever say, Hey, so-and-so got really pissed at me. We just had an argument. Heather, can you just sit and listen and help me find whatever that belief is within me?
I think there's something inside of me. Most people don't do that, right? But what I'm hoping for is this like big paradigm shift around this because we need to. It is empowering and it transforms our lives and it creates emotional stability and it helps us to set better boundaries. All the things, all the things. But we don't know how to do that. Well, we weren't taught.
We're not taught that kind of stuff in school, for God's sake. We were taught AP physics, but we don't know how to handle our lives. You know, we don't know how to manage lives, but honest to God, Heather, it is that simple. The process is simple. Again, when people start doing it, they're like, well, you know, I feel like I'm hating myself. And I, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
We're not hating ourselves. We're getting curious about what's going on in here. That's what we're doing. That's all we're doing.
Totally, that's it. And people are blown away. They're like, oh my God, I was so angry. But when I went under the anger, I didn't know that it was because I was feeling not lovable. I've never had that conscious thought in my whole life.
Yet, I've been walking around my whole life, obviously, picking partners, picking jobs, avoiding boundaries, all the things, because I'm walking around feeling like I'm unlovable. I had no idea. Everything exists, or let me say this, 90 to 95% of how we live is based on the programming in the subconscious mind. We don't even know it. We know what's just going on up here.
Five to 10% is the conscious mind. It's the tip of the iceberg. The iceberg is where the meat is. It's no different than we program our phones. We pull apps up. We got all these outdated apps. We'd have to update things. That's all that it is. Do we just need updating?
Yep. You're dropping down. You dropped out. If you think about your beliefs or emotions being stacked. The first one is anger. Let's just pretend like, okay, I'm angry that that person said or did that to me. Okay, great. What might be under the anger? Just get curious. Like, what is it? And then people go, oh, that's so weird. I'm feeling like a loser. I don't, where'd that come from?
Or I'm feeling frustrated. Okay, what's under the frustration? Well, what's under that? And what's under that? And then you'll find your way to the root or the bottom and you'll say to yourself, oh my God, I really feel like I'm unlovable. It's so weird that I'm feeling that way. And then you ask yourself, is this a familiar feeling from the past, right? Oh yeah, you know what? When my father left,
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