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Michelle Chalfant

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399 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

When I look at what you're doing or when I experience what you're doing, what does it make me feel? Again, this is not like airy fairy or mushy. It's like, gosh, you know, it really makes me feel like I'm not seen or I'm not heard or I'm invisible. So we want to start with getting in touch with what the heck I'm feeling. And then I share that with you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

When I look at what you're doing or when I experience what you're doing, what does it make me feel? Again, this is not like airy fairy or mushy. It's like, gosh, you know, it really makes me feel like I'm not seen or I'm not heard or I'm invisible. So we want to start with getting in touch with what the heck I'm feeling. And then I share that with you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

When I look at what you're doing or when I experience what you're doing, what does it make me feel? Again, this is not like airy fairy or mushy. It's like, gosh, you know, it really makes me feel like I'm not seen or I'm not heard or I'm invisible. So we want to start with getting in touch with what the heck I'm feeling. And then I share that with you.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I share that piece with you like, hey, Heather. I realize, you know, when you treat me that way, I feel invisible. It makes me feel invisible. Can we have a conversation about this? Can you please stop? Can you please stop saying that to me? So we don't know what we feel. We know to use just anger or we sweep it under the carpet. And we need to find that other way.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I share that piece with you like, hey, Heather. I realize, you know, when you treat me that way, I feel invisible. It makes me feel invisible. Can we have a conversation about this? Can you please stop? Can you please stop saying that to me? So we don't know what we feel. We know to use just anger or we sweep it under the carpet. And we need to find that other way.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I share that piece with you like, hey, Heather. I realize, you know, when you treat me that way, I feel invisible. It makes me feel invisible. Can we have a conversation about this? Can you please stop? Can you please stop saying that to me? So we don't know what we feel. We know to use just anger or we sweep it under the carpet. And we need to find that other way.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And the third door is let's start getting in touch with really what's going on underneath the anger and dive a little bit into that resentment and go, what the heck am I resentful for? Why are they irritating me? There's something in the irritation. And we need to learn how to turn toward the thing that's irritating us, the thing that's making us resentful, that person, that thing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And the third door is let's start getting in touch with really what's going on underneath the anger and dive a little bit into that resentment and go, what the heck am I resentful for? Why are they irritating me? There's something in the irritation. And we need to learn how to turn toward the thing that's irritating us, the thing that's making us resentful, that person, that thing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And the third door is let's start getting in touch with really what's going on underneath the anger and dive a little bit into that resentment and go, what the heck am I resentful for? Why are they irritating me? There's something in the irritation. And we need to learn how to turn toward the thing that's irritating us, the thing that's making us resentful, that person, that thing.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

Get in touch within ourselves as far as what's going on, and then we share that. And that goes back to, even deeper, Heather, We don't know what we're feeling. Our emotions are our superpower. I used to work with high-powered CEOs. I worked with movie stars. I worked with people that were in when I lived in Nashville for 13 years. I had big executives come in.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

Get in touch within ourselves as far as what's going on, and then we share that. And that goes back to, even deeper, Heather, We don't know what we're feeling. Our emotions are our superpower. I used to work with high-powered CEOs. I worked with movie stars. I worked with people that were in when I lived in Nashville for 13 years. I had big executives come in.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

Get in touch within ourselves as far as what's going on, and then we share that. And that goes back to, even deeper, Heather, We don't know what we're feeling. Our emotions are our superpower. I used to work with high-powered CEOs. I worked with movie stars. I worked with people that were in when I lived in Nashville for 13 years. I had big executives come in.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I had all kinds of people that would come in. When we learn how to touch and feel our emotions, they become our superpower. It's where we gain our intuition. It's where we gain our needs. And we want to learn how to feel. And I'm going to say 8 out of 10 people, when I would ask them, hey, what are you feeling? Like, tell me what's going on inside your body. They're like, I don't know.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I had all kinds of people that would come in. When we learn how to touch and feel our emotions, they become our superpower. It's where we gain our intuition. It's where we gain our needs. And we want to learn how to feel. And I'm going to say 8 out of 10 people, when I would ask them, hey, what are you feeling? Like, tell me what's going on inside your body. They're like, I don't know.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I had all kinds of people that would come in. When we learn how to touch and feel our emotions, they become our superpower. It's where we gain our intuition. It's where we gain our needs. And we want to learn how to feel. And I'm going to say 8 out of 10 people, when I would ask them, hey, what are you feeling? Like, tell me what's going on inside your body. They're like, I don't know.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I don't know. I feel angry. OK, what else? And man, when we start penetrating what's going on in the body, and I say dropping down below the chin, it's like penetrating the chin. Like what's going on down here instead of here? Game changer. Game changer. We try to solve everything. We go into our ego.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I don't know. I feel angry. OK, what else? And man, when we start penetrating what's going on in the body, and I say dropping down below the chin, it's like penetrating the chin. Like what's going on down here instead of here? Game changer. Game changer. We try to solve everything. We go into our ego.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

I don't know. I feel angry. OK, what else? And man, when we start penetrating what's going on in the body, and I say dropping down below the chin, it's like penetrating the chin. Like what's going on down here instead of here? Game changer. Game changer. We try to solve everything. We go into our ego.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

We try to go into the mind and fix it and change things and make you change so I don't get so triggered. No, you got to go in the body. And that's a key element of setting boundaries again.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

We try to go into the mind and fix it and change things and make you change so I don't get so triggered. No, you got to go in the body. And that's a key element of setting boundaries again.