Michelle Chalfant
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133 appearances
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1 series
first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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Wow. Okay. So, so keep going. So when did she feel like she was afraid of being left around that experience?
Ooh. Okay. I'm going to ask you a question. So go with the first thought that comes to you. You ready? What's the earliest memory you have of being left?
So your mother left your father and it felt like your father leaving you. Great. Do you get an image of the little girl that feels this way?
Okay. Is she still in the hospital or somewhere else?
Okay. What is she doing?
Okay. Can you be you, the woman you are today, the mother you are today, right? Who's, I don't know. I'm going to make it up because I don't know you, but strong, solid, and unconditionally loving. Would you say you are?
Perfect. Go, if you can, in your mind's eye, just imagine being with that little four-year-old you that's in the house and her mother left your father, but it felt like your father left. Just go be with her. Do you see yourself in the house?
Okay. Does she see you, the woman you are today and the adult you are today?
So in your mind, just say to her, I'm here. I'm not going anywhere. I love you. And I'm the grownup version of you.
Yeah.
Yeah. And what happens next?
Yeah. So ask her what she needs. Just if you want to imagine yourself kneeling down or getting on the floor, then just say to her, little darling, or whatever you want to say to her, what do you need? I know how you're feeling. What do you need? And then what does she say back? Just go the first thought that comes to you.
Great. So go ahead and hold her. So imagine yourself holding her and say, I'm here. I will never leave you. I will never leave you. And I'm safe with you. I will create safety. Whatever words she needs here, go ahead and say that to her. And then what happens next?
So ask her if she'd like to come with you to where you live right now.
So, so imagine, just imagine beaming yourself here, like, like way in the old days, like the Jetsons, just, just go bling. And there you are, you know, magic. We can take her from that house where you grew up and bring her to where you are right now. And she can just go off in your bedroom and say, I'm just going to finish this podcast interview and I'll be with you.
And here's some, whatever crayons or whatever she wants to play with paper and Give her a little puppy or a cat or something to play with and say, I love you so much. I'm so happy you're here. I promise you, I will never leave you.
So what happens to your heart now?
Yeah. So if you were my client, I would say to you, this is now the work moving forward. This is your homework. Continue to check in with her. Continue to check in with her. Because at the root of you connecting with a partner has been in the past, not now, we just did this work. You just did beautiful work. So I want to say thank you. I know it was a vulnerable thing. But at the root...
of you attempting to have a healthy relationship with another human was, I have a fear of being left. How in the world are you going to connect with someone authentically, unconditionally? And how are you going to attract someone in that can actually connect with you in a deep way if you've got that belief?
So I don't know what you're like in relationships. We don't have to keep going here. But just knowing that, think about how you then show up in relationships. Like, is there anxiety? Is there like, oh, my God, they're going to leave me. Ask yourself this. What do I do that's not authentic? in order to make sure they don't leave. Do I not say things? Do I not set boundaries? Do I get too clingy?
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