Michelle Flynn

Because I think as parents, we often jump in and try and fix the problem or take away the pain, but actually sometimes just allowing the process to unfold and

like within reason, I think is really important.

Another one.

Oh, that is really, really hard.

No, you can't.

You definitely can't.

And you know what I think is brilliant about this is I wonder what's happening for that listener, Clare, that's been triggered from her own experience of growing up as well with that sibling.

Do you know, I wonder if some of this conflict that she's witnessing is reminding her of the conflict that she had with that.

Is it her sibling?

Yes, her sibling's children and her children are arguing.

Yeah.

So this might be really early stuff that's happening.

Like it's actually her eight year old self is meeting her sister's eight year old self in this.

So that's what I'd get curious about for that listener.

Yeah.

So I think it's inevitable that when we're triggered or activated, we're going to revert back to those roles.

Right.

So the key is having awareness about it, because when we have awareness about those old emotional patterns or loops that we find ourselves in, then we can stop them and then we can intercept them and we can make a choice then to show up differently in that relationship.

And I nearly say it like like, oh, yeah, there's 10 year old Michelle again showing up here again.

So I need to maybe let her know everything is OK.