Michelle Flynn

You've more agency now.

You don't need to be the one to hold it all together.

So you can definitely break those patterns.

But it's about awareness and it's about boundaries.

And it's about really honest conversations, I think, with your siblings.

Yeah, definitely, Clare.

And this is something I would see in my practice a lot.

Like, I think there's so much prep that goes in.

I mean, even into the wedding, like if you think about the amount of prep and the organisation and then into, you know, pregnancy and birth classes and all of that.

But there's actually very little prep that happens for after the baby arrives.

And really, if you think about it, like becoming a parent is one of the biggest shifts that both mum and dad or two mums, two dads have.

are going to go through probably in their whole life, right?

Like you're a parent, you know, there's like life before.

Everything changes.

Everything changes.

It's like life before, life after.

So, of course, the relationship is going to have a huge seismic shift that happens that we really don't prepare for, I think.

Yeah.

Yeah, you can.

And I think this is where we need to be really intentional in relationships after we have children, because there is less time and priorities start to change, you know.