Michelle Kaplan

And I was going with my friend.

And she at the last minute got sick, and she backed out and I was

Oh, my gosh, I was freaking out.

And I was supposed to go with this friend.

And then it turned out probably to be the best thing.

I mean, that that she didn't go.

I mean, no offense to her.

But I think it branched me out because then you're kind of stuck to that person.

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

So if it's not what's making your decision, who else is coming, then make sure that that's obvious.

So you might say something like, oh, who's coming?

I'm so excited to see everyone.

So this implies you're going.

You are going.

Yeah.

So this makes it clear that you're just you're just wondering who's going to be there, but you're excited any way you're going.

So let's do some role plays, Lindsay.

You know, sometimes there's that gray area, but we absolutely want to avoid is who else is coming?

I know.

tone of voice or depends who's coming right that that really makes it seem like it's hinging on it um i think it's fair to ask if people you know are coming so yeah um let's do another one so in this one i am i am waiting on an rsvp from you for my birthday dinner all right okay yes okay so can you make it yeah i'll be there uh who else is rsvp'd