Mike Albo
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96 appearances
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first heard Jun 2025
last heard 25 Mar
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Things have changed enough so that moving forward, the rules should be, if you're being abused, you gotta leave right away.
Now, I completely understand why in the past women often did not do that. I understand, as counterintuitive as it seems, why an abused woman would send complimentary texts or emails to her abuser after the abuse. In an era where women felt for good reason that OG predators like Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein would never be held accountable, why not at least get something out of it?
i knew if i knew he knew okay let's move on in that scenario it was not illogical for an abused woman to say well if i can't get justice for my pain can i at least get a receipt a coupon this is disgusting this is disgusting he's equating
But this should be society's new grand bargain. We take every accusation seriously. But don't tell me anymore about your contemporaneous account that you said to two friends 10 years ago. Tell the police right away. Don't wait a decade. Don't journal about it. Don't turn it into a one-woman show. And most importantly, don't keep fucking him.
It's not victim-shaming to expect women to have the agency to leave toxic relationships. Quite the contrary, to not expect that is infantilizing them. If Diddy walks free, it will be because his lawyers can point to an endless stream of texts from Cassie expressing what's often called enthusiastic consent to their sex life.
If you're me-tooing someone, it doesn't help your case if you texted him, me too. I just want it to be uncontrollable. If you want us to think you weren't always ready to freak off, don't write, I'm always ready to freak off.
And music is to begin with highly sexualized. Magic doesn't strike at the office. It strikes in the studio at 3 a.m. when you're high as a kite and horny as a youth minister and... Everyone is sexy as shit and you're working on a song called Slut Up My Goo Machine. Of course a freak-off breaks out.
But if we're going to have an honest conversation about abuse, we also have to have an honest conversation about what people are willing to do for stardom. If you want a number one record on the chart so bad you'll take a number one in the face, some of that is on you.
And if you're doing it for love, well come on, Oprah and Dr. Phil and every podcaster in the world have done a million shows by now about how abuse is not love and abusers don't change. If it happened once, there will be more of it.
But by her own account, she said, the whole time I was with him, I could have bought myself a business flight plane ticket back to my four-story townhouse in Hackney, London. Really? Then why am I reading about this? Then do that. Buy that plane ticket, even if you have to go coach. If you're literally being held captive, that's one thing.
But if you're putting up with whatever for love or for your career, then you need to have a little more honesty and accountability about that. Ike Turner was a psycho just like Diddy, but in an era where there was no movement to help her, Tina Turner somehow got away and she did it with 36 cents in her pocket and a mobile card.
Thank you so much. And thanks for reading the book.
Right. An underminer is that friend who makes you feel really horrible about yourself, no matter what you do. And they always sort of have a feeling that they're better than you, that they don't say that out loud. They just sort of subtly are concerned about you in this way that makes you feel like when you walk away from a conversation with them and you're like, why am I so depressed?
You don't really know why. It's a very gassy, vaporous kind of evil in your life.
Yes. The Underminer feels better about themselves as long as you're below them somehow. And it is always done with a level of like, I'm so worried about you. You look tired. Are you okay? Is there something wrong? You know, this sort of like concern, which I think is so...
which has been around since the beginning of time, but I think with social media and with wellness and with the way that we all work now, it's even more exponential. And with social media, you can... you can pose that you're better than someone so easily and make them feel so bad about themselves.
But also you can also be a, I feel, you know, when I wrote this book, it was before the term thought leader was such a big term and before the term wellness was a big term. But I feel like those two, like a thought leader is someone who thinks they're better than you, you know, who has ideas that maybe you don't really understand, but maybe if you work hard, you can get them.
No. What did she launch?
Yep. And I think also, you know, the way that culture has evolved, there is a level of people who think they're enlightened. Enlightenment became a luxury product in a way. And, you know, there's people who can pay for it. And then, you know, they go off to these ashrams or wherever they go and they come back and feel enlightened and, but also they, they have the money to be able to do so.
And, you know, you can pay to be enlightened now. Um, you can pay to be hanging out with the best meditators and, uh, and it's, you know, I, I, I practice Buddhism, but I don't know what kind of form of affliction it is, but it's definitely, um, you know, the hocus pocus, which has been around again since the beginning of civilization, um,
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