Miranda

People were supportive, but they didn't quite nail what it means to be actually supportive and to really actually advocate for the victims of abuse.

It was also weird to see people talk about how brave we were and how brave I was, but I never once really felt brave at all.

I was very scared for a number of reasons.

I was terrified of my family seeing this online.

I didn't have any control over who knew what happened to me.

It was just a really, really weird time because I also was excited about the possibility of trying to enact some change.

There's such a fine line between advocating for someone because they need to be advocated for online and...

self-servingly sharing stuff because you want your experience to be shared, which is how I felt a lot of time.

People just wanted to have their moment of talking about how creepy he was so that they could garner some attention.

But mostly I would say like, just text your friends.

If your friend is experiencing something like this, tell them that you're thinking of them.

Tell them that you're there to listen to them.

if you want them to listen or ask them what they need.

I was so vulnerable because I couldn't speak on my own behalf.

And I think if people had, instead of posting about it on Facebook, had asked me how I was doing, it would have just made it so much easier.

I think it was the lawsuit that made me realize more that it wasn't just Cato that had failed us.

It was a lot of people that let us down.

And I thought that that was going to change.

Thank you so much for having me.

I'm so excited to be here.