Molly Graham

is about sorting through which voice in your head is talking when it says this seems like a great idea or you should definitely do that um and some of the mistakes i've made have been because i listened to a voice that was all about like ego and sort of like i'd be so excited for people to think i was cool you know whereas like if i can listen to the more authentic voice that's about

Kuten sanoin, tämä on asia, jota pidän, ja haluan varmistaa, että teen tämän, oppin tämän tai autan ihmisiä tällä tavalla, eikä halua, että ihmiset luovat, että olen kylmä. Nämä ovat kaksi eri North Starsa. Pidän siitä, miten ajattelet sitä.

Yeah, I'm gonna say something to that and then I'm gonna make you answer the fear question. But like, absolutely. So my TED talk is about taking risks and I use the metaphor of jumping off cliffs. And I was doing the TED talk before I, like a couple of weeks ago for this community of startup leaders that I run. And we were talking a lot about where confidence comes from. I'm excited for this.

One of the things I realized is that I reached a point after a couple of jumps, what I would call jumps, where I took a big risk and I kind of came out the other side of the falling part of the jump. I reached a point where there was something that no one could take away from me.

I think early in your career or work life, you're scared. You don't know who you are. To some extent, you're trying to define yourself by other people's versions of success or other people's versions of who you are. For me, risk-taking was such an important thing.

um tool for figuring out who i was and to some extent getting a confidence that like sort of like i can i know i'm good at stuff yeah and even if i fail like it's never going to take away that sort of like intrinsic knowledge that i'm good at things because i've now been through so many different like weird scenarios you know um this like belief this like

melkein luonnollista uskoa siitä, kuka me olemme, ja tuota tukea sitä henkilöä ja uskoamme. Kyllä, mutta minä myös ajattelen, että riski on osa siitä, miten tunnet itseäsi syvästi. Sinä et käy joku muun muassa. Sinä yrität ymmärtää sitä, mitä olet, ja myös sitä, mitä et ole, ja sen jälkeen.

Olet tavallaan kehittynyt sitä intressiivistä tunnetta siitä, että tämä on se, minä olen. Tämä on se, minä en ole. Ja sinun mainitsemasi näkökulmasta, se tulee paljon selkeämmin, että tämä on se, mitä minulle on tärkeää ja minä haluan mennä missä haluan mennä. Mutta kerro minulle, kerro minulle... Tämä on sinun kysymyksesi.

Sorry, the question that you asked me was about failure. And it was about sort of like trying things and it not working out. I'm curious like what role that has played for you in terms of like, have there been big failures? Have there been things that you look back on and you're like, I wish I hadn't done that? Let me think about this. I didn't know you're going to pull a Uno reverse card. I mean, I don't know if there's like,

I just took it down. It's interesting because you're saying this was authentically joyful for me. And I shared it. And then the world did what the world does these days. And what do you feel like you take away from that? Sorry. What do I take away from that? Oh man. I don't know. It was so like...

Kyllä. On joitain rajoja, joita ei tarvitse rajoittaa. Mutta se on mielenkiintoista. Ehkä se liittyy onlinein. On hetkiä, joissa on vaikeaa olla koko itseäsi. Ympäristössä, jossa ei ole helppoa olla kahdenlaista keskustelua. Kyllä, ymmärrän, jos... Kun puhutaan paikoista,

um at least in my experiences like i think you often start out with your parents definition of success or someone maybe it's a cultural definition of success but i think for a lot of people it's some external uh force that's older than you telling you what good is you know and it takes time to figure out whether that

is true for you, you know, or if you have a different definition of success. I also think success changes as you get older, like what it means to you and what you value, like what I thought mattered when I was in my 20s and 30s, like is not what I value in my 40s. And for me, it's been this massive transformation. I think for I like when I turned 40, I really like leaned into it and was like, I'm thinking of this as halfway through my life, if I'm lucky.

And so I started to realize that time was just finite in a way that I think it just never feels like when you're in your 20s. You're like, I have infinite time. I'm going to travel to every country and become president. You know what I mean? Like, you're just like, it's all possible. Yeah.

And I think as you get older and as you watch friends die or different things happen in life, you realize that time is like the most valuable thing you have. And that being able to choose how you spend your time, for me, that's been just like a punch in the face of like, okay, like 40 years left, 40 years left, 40 years left, let's say.

Hopefully. And what do I want to do at that time? And it's led me to also realize that like,

I think for a long time success was probably defined by some kind of programming or someone else's definition around title or fame or people thinking I was cool in some form or another. And there was a really abrupt moment where I just realized that is not what I care about. And that...

Now I define success through joy, and I just look for joy in my day. And literally, do I look forward to the people I'm going to work with, the work that I'm going to do, the time that I get to spend with my family, with people that I love? I want to be happy.

Joka päivä on iloinen. Ei kukaan ole iloinen joka päivä, mutta voin sanoa, että 80-85% päivästä menen töihin ja elämään. Se on mielestäni ainoa suunnitelma onnistumisesta. Minä rakastan iloa, koska ajattelin iloa ja onnellista.

Tämä oli mahtavaa keskustelua. David ja minä voimme jatkaa tätä. Haluaisin puhua ympäristöä hieman. Kyseessä on ympäristöä. Kyseessä on ympäristöä. Kyseessä on ympäristöä. Kyseessä on ympäristöä.