Molly Graham

I think I thrive on fear. The bad version of it is like I get bored easily. And the good version is that I love being on learning curves so steep that I'm terrified I'm going to fall off of them. I think I've learned to make it a trigger for like, oh, you got to like try this or you got to do this because you're going to learn something and you're going to learn what you're capable of sort of in spite of the fear.

Voinko saada sinulle kertoa rannasta? Voiko me kertoa rannasta? Ja sitten voit kysyä minulle kysymyksiä. Kyllä, kyllä, kyllä. Okei, eli kovidaan, luulen, että aloitit soittamaan sosiaalisessa mediassa. Ja sanoit, että laitit jotain online ja se tuli ulos. Voitko kertoa sitä kertoa? Kyllä, kyllä, kyllä. Eli kovidaan, en pystynyt ottelemaan enempää asiakkaita.

Kymmenen vuotta sitten olin kaksi vuotta Googlessa ja Facebookissa ja sitten muutaman vuoden aikana auttaen rakentamaan hieman alkuperäistä. Joku kertoi minua kirjoittamaan muutamia asioita, joita olin oppinut. Minulla oli sellainen asia, jota olin sanonut ihmisille, kun olin kouluttanut heitä työskentelyssäni.

How you have to get good at giving away your Legos. That was my like phrase for teaching people to like learn to let go of things and to embrace change as like the companies that I worked on were changing and growing so fast that it's like it's very a very emotional process for people. And it often causes you to want to like hold on to the past right to hold on to what you know. And so for some reason my brain works in weird metaphors and I came up with this metaphor of like Kinder are nurse learning to share their Legos. Yeah.

So I published this article with these folks about basically saying one of the best things you can do if you're inside of these companies that are growing and changing is to learn to give away your Legos, which essentially was like learn to grow as your company grows, learn to change as your company evolves. And I don't know, I think I did it as a favor to a friend and it felt like something that might be useful to people that were inside of these rapidly scaling companies. And

It was my first experience with something taking off. And taking on a life of its own to the point where I didn't understand what... I had people emailing me from big, old companies. Folks from Safeway and places that I had not intended it for. And little, tiny companies. I remember a founder in Nigeria emailed me and said, this was just so helpful to me. I can't tell you how powerful it was. And it really helped normalize the situation I was in. And for me...

It was eye-opening in terms of like sometimes the thing you intend or the thing that you put out in the world. You meant it one way, but it has this much broader audience and this much broader meaning to other people. But it also taught me like.

I think I had spent a long time building companies and thought that that was the main way that I was going to help, which is definitely a word in my career. And then I discovered that there was a way to connect with people that I would never meet and be able to help folks that were on the other side of the world that I was never going to encounter through my day-to-day work, you know.

now do these things called legos talks um companies will when they are going through hyper growth but honestly just when they're going through a lot of change they'll reach out and ask if i can come in and talk to their team and i always call them group therapy sessions because really what i'm doing is going in and just saying like hey everybody it's gonna be okay you know um everything you're going through is both like emotional and

It doesn't mean anything is wrong. But yeah, it led me to like connecting with all these different companies. And I think, you know, after many years, it's led me to what I do now, which is basically like coach and mentor startup founders and startup leaders. So but yeah, tell me, tell me about the kinds of questions you got after the red dress. I mean, as you talked about getting started.

Olen mielenkiintoinen, koska luulen, että kirjoittaminen online yleensä, mutta luulen, että ensimmäisiä vuosia, kun sinulla oli enemmän ja enemmän seurantajia, oli haastavaa. Luulen, että se oli haastavaa laittaa itseäsi ulos ja päättää, mitä liittyä ja mitä välttää. Voitko puhua siitä huolta ja sen prosessista, että oppii tekemään sitä huolta huolta?

Yeah. I would say, number one, I think I thrive on fear. I feel like my whole career, the bad version of it is I get bored easily. And the good version is that I love being on learning curves so steep that I'm terrified I'm going to fall off of them. And when the learning curve starts to slow down is when I get bored. And so I do...

Mielestäni olen oppinut tekemään sitä, että sinun täytyy yrittää jotain tai tehdä jotain, koska olet oppinut jotain ja olet oppinut sitä, mitä olet voimassa.

And I'm like a, I'm a people pleaser, you know, so judgment is hard for me. Like your world of online comments, like I do a little bit of publishing on like LinkedIn and Substack and, you know, I get a negative comment and it'll throw me for a loop. But part of it is because you can't be in a conversation with someone.

You know what I mean? Like online's not great for that. And when it's a real conversation with someone, like I can talk to anyone, right? I can have like a thoughtful, robust conversation with somebody I violently disagree with. But online, it's just people throwing grenades, you know, and running in the other direction, which is not anyone's best, you know, place. But yeah, I think for me, like I...

Where I've found my writing and publishing, I've just had to work really hard to just do it for me. And basically to publish...

When I'm like, this is something that needs to be shared and I just need to put it out there because I've repeated myself five times or I've said the same thing to three founders this week. That's when I put it online because I think, oh, that's going to help someone that I've never met. And so...

There's definitely fear. I mean, I think we both benefited from being risk takers. Were there moments that risk actually went south? For sure. Then you have to answer that. Yeah, I mean, I think went south is such an interesting thing, because what is failure and what is regret? You know, I...

I always say I don't really believe in regret because I wouldn't be where I am without everything I've been through.

Luulen, että jos ajattelen asioita, joita olen huolissani, tai asioita, joita olisin tekemässä erilaisesti, kun tiedän, mitä tiedän nyt, niin se oli usein se, että kuulin väärän ääntä mielessäni. Luulen, että niin paljon työtä ymmärtää, kuka olet ja missä olet suurin piirre on elämässäsi.