Monica Vantilburg

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1,410 appearances 4 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 22 Jul

Monica Vantilburg’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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Networth and Chill with Your Rich BFF · The Costly Money Mistakes I Made in My 20s That Drained My Net Worth · 22 Jul 2026 podcast

So let's talk about comparing yourself to others. voice-verified

Comparison is the thief of joy, but hearing that is so much easier than putting it into practice. voice-verified

There was a particular girl I knew when we were both starting out in our careers. voice-verified

She had such a nice apartment, and I wondered what she was doing that I couldn't seem to figure out. voice-verified

I spent far too long berating myself for not working hard enough, saving enough, being good enough, only to learn that her parents had bought her that apartment for $1 million. voice-verified

So she had absolutely no rent payments, which were, of course, my largest expense. voice-verified

I realized I was comparing apples to oranges. voice-verified

Without a fresh hand-me-down of a million dollars from my own parents, who I love dearly and have given me plenty of legs up in life, there was just no way I was going to be able to keep up with this girl. voice-verified

And there was no sense in trying. voice-verified

As one of my friends likes to say, there's always something under the hood. voice-verified

I started to see it everywhere. voice-verified

Or they put value in a category of life that I didn't. voice-verified

And that's really the only place that they were high spenders. voice-verified

With this new perspective, I started comparing myself to myself instead. voice-verified

Am I making more than I did last year? voice-verified

Am I saving more than last year? voice-verified

Am I working toward a lifestyle that I actually want? voice-verified

Keeping my focus on my own progress has been way better for my mental health and especially better for my bank account. voice-verified

And I hate to say this, but another mistake I've made was taking advice from my parents. voice-verified

Now listen, I'm not saying this is always a bad idea. voice-verified

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