Monte Mader

I think there's some of that.

And I got to a point with her where.

I understood why she left.

Like if I had been a grown woman living in the environment that we were with this idea that marital rape isn't real and this is your job and you have to submit and you have.

I would leave, too.

And I had a really great conversation with her when I was 23.

And I said, I just need to know because our home was also very physically abusive.

It was very, very physically abusive.

And I asked her, I said, I need to know why you left this all behind.

You knew how dad was.

You knew the structure we were growing up in.

Why did you leave us all there?

And her answer was so honest.

She said, I couldn't stay anymore, but I knew I couldn't feed you and your dad could.

We grew up very much in a home like a lot of corporal punishment.

My dad was not someone who was a raging drunk who came home and did anything like that.

But but our beatings were severe.

If we ever did even minor infractions.

I mean, I was beat with a bullwhip once.

My brother was beat with a chair.