Myesha Battle

And I think that's actually really important to remember because most people will feel shame having gone through this experience.

I think on both sides, you know, if you're not a complete monster, you do feel ashamed of being a cheater sometimes.

on some level.

And that is an opportunity for healing as well.

So I don't want to forget those folks that like, it's important to think about why you did what you did and what help you can get to make sure that you don't inflict that harm on other partners in the future.

The definition hasn't changed.

I think that is still very much aligned with what we expect.

It's a betrayal.

It's a romantic betrayal.

But the mode has changed.

The modes, I guess I should say.

And things that we don't even really think about because they're so second nature to us specifically related to technology can cause issues in relationship.

And that's why I'm a big proponent of people talking about what their definition of monogamy is.

If that's your expectation, I think now more than ever, it's important to talk about what it means to have fidelity in your relationship so that you can then define infidelity with a partner.

So, you know, everything from following exes on social media

to maybe you had some subscriptions to OnlyFans before you got into a committed relationship.

What do you do with those?

Do you continue?

Is that okay?

In some relationships, it would be fully above board, and in others, it will not be.