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And it's cost, and that's how much it costs.

And that's my nervous system's reaction to like this insecurity of finance.

And like our dad had lost all his money when I was in college and I got this phone call like,

can't pay for you to go to school anymore i got the phone call can you pay for a school but anyway um so i had to just explain to her that this was an old nervous system response and that this necklace meant so much more that he had secretly gone and bought it and that when she was 70 she wasn't going to think about how much the necklace cost she's going to be looking down in it going oh yeah casey bought that and so you had to do this whole practice of me like

holding the necklace and going, I received this.

I'm so thankful.

I deserve it.

I receive it.

I'm like crying and crying on the phone.

And because I got it before he'd come home and I tore the box open.

So then when he came home and I could go to him and be like, oh my God, thank you so much.

Rather than like, why did you do that?

Can you afford it?

And even like with the book,

Yes, glimmers, they're these tiny moments that make us feel safe.

But the book is really a deep dive into who you are, you know, and you have to be pretty brave to go there.

You have to be willing to look at why.

And your nervous system probably put that reaction in place so that you felt safe at the time.

But it's like an outdated computer system and we have to keep updating.

But if we're not willing to look at ourselves, then it's hard to update it.