Nadia

Yeah, hold on to that.

Yeah.

And it does make us definitely feel when one of us behaves in a certain way, our nervous system doing the thing that it does, which is to protect us.

Then having this witness who also understands the work of the nervous system, which is really such a blessing, is that when something happens, I can phone her and she can be like, okay.

So that's your nervous system doing that.

But that might be his nervous system doing this.

And I can say, I mean, even she got this beautiful necklace as a Christmas present, a birthday present.

Birthday, 50th birthday.

From her husband.

And I have a similar necklace that she's like, oh, you're not wearing that necklace anymore.

Do you want to give it to me?

I was like, yeah, sure, I'll give it to you.

And then in the post arrives the necklace that she'd been saying she wanted and her husband had...

bought it for her and it arrives and she phones me and she's like, he bought me the fucking necklace.

And I went, that's amazing.

And she went, no, we can't afford it.

And it's cost, and that's how much it costs.

And that's my nervous system's reaction to like this insecurity of finance.

And like our dad had lost all his money when I was in college and I got this phone call like,

can't pay for you to go to school anymore i got the phone call can you pay for a school but anyway um so i had to just explain to her that this was an old nervous system response and that this necklace meant so much more that he had secretly gone and bought it and that when she was 70 she wasn't going to think about how much the necklace cost she's going to be looking down in it going oh yeah casey bought that and so you had to do this whole practice of me like