Nadia

And then weirdly, I ended up in a partnership with also two boys that kick the footballer.

I'll spend this fucking mess everywhere.

And I'm like phoning her having my nervous system responses.

But as the, you know, step parent, new partner, you feel you have even less right to react to that.

So I can phone her and she's like, I'm going through the exact same thing.

Don't worry about it.

And we're both like, OK, take a breath.

We're OK.

OK, so a glimmer is the opposite of a trigger.

I love that, right?

You've got me right there.

And we're going to talk you through a glimmer check-in later.

Okay, great.

So a trigger is sending signals of danger and a glimmer is sending your body signals of safety.

And so there are these tiny moments that could be...

a smile from someone, it could be a warm mug in your hand or a hot water bottle or your pet, whatever it is.

That's interesting.

Bring your body safety.

And this is the key part.

So it's not just like thinking about them because safety doesn't come from cognitive thinking.